Is it the exclusive responsibility of one of the spouses to maintain happiness in the family? Never. A family will be a happy family only when both the couple go in the same direction, hand in hand. Family life will be successful only when two persons with different natures and desires start to live with a single desire and mutually agreeing thoughts. Effort, dedication and vigilance are essential for the fulfillment of married life.
Love is the most essential factor in a married life. It is love that grows and nurtures family life. At the same time, there are certain other factors that complement love.
The couple should be mutually compassionate. Love alone will not suffice, loving compassion is what is needed. For instance, welcome your spouse who comes home tired after the hectic work of the day with a smile on your face and compassion. This will help your spouse feel wanted and loved. Similarly, you should also be compassionate to your spouse, who is tired of doing the chores in the home. It should not be a one-sided affair. Both the husband and wife need and deserve compassion.
Humility is a fundamental virtue. Where humility is absent, no other virtue will grow. Ego and self-centeredness are the cancers that destroy marital life. Ego kills love in married life. An egoistic partner always thinks about oneself. For him/her, only his/her emotions are important. He/she will not be able to bear when his/her partner’s attention slightly drifts from him/her or criticizes him/her. Ego is the main villain that thwarts marital life. We will be able to forgive each other, bear with each other and regain our love only if we are humble. If you are unable to love each other as you did earlier after a quarrel, then be sure that your ego has escalated.
There are certain partners who measure what they get from the other partner in married life. I will give back only what I have got. If you give me, I will give you. This is their attitude. For a happy married life, such an attitude must be strictly avoided. Selfishness has no place in married life. The crux of family life is in serving the other, forgetting oneself. Give unconditionally. Give love and share joy without measure. Your partner might want certain things from us every day. We will often be unaware of them. So, every day ask your partner what he/she needs from you. Such gestures will increase love, serving attitude and cordiality among life partners.
Love for honesty also has a major role to play in marital life. Remember that you will not be able to lead a successful married life unless you are honest.
