Some parents are ready to agree with certain likes of their children. For example they won’t see any problem in their children wearing fashionable dress or having any healthy relationship with his/her friend from opposite sex or travelling with such a friend. Because they know their children well. Even then they may hesitate to give so much freedom to their children in public. How others will think of it? This is their concern.
Parents want their children live in tune with the norms of the society. Through such talks they negatively instill certain social awareness into their mind. Here the children are forced to suppress their wishes and live only within the limit set by the society. No doubt, we should honor the society and obey its rules. But at the same time parents should ensure that even while their children obey the rules they are living with confidence and not sacrificing their likes. Some parents are the ultimate decision makers in the affairs of their children. From selecting the dress to the married life, they enforce their likes in all the affairs of their children. They don’t give an opportunity to correct the mistakes or take a more alert step in the future. Only a few parents will allow their children to take their own decisions. The strict parents justify their stand by saying that all these are for the bright future of their children and make their life happy. Whatever be the risk and the result of it, parents should encourage their children from their early age to take their own decision. Most of the parents believe that materializing the wishes and buying things for the children alone is the method of expressing their love for them. Such parents try to show their love through the things purchased. Spend time with the children and try to listen to them. It will help to deepen the bond between the parents and children. Psychologists opine that such deep bonds formed thus would help the children to sustain their love for their parents in their old age.
Parents want to change their children’s attitude and behavior. They always try to do that. It does not mean that parents are not expected to correct their children. But branding the children as bad ones and correcting them cannot be recommended. Children have their own identity. Honour their self respect. Correct their mistakes with tolerance. Sometimes parents assess their children on the basis of the marks they receive in exams. High marks in the exam may help the children in higher studies and getting a job. But the marks alone won’t help anybody to succeed in life. Low marks in the exam should not be considered as the reason for under estimating the children. Give the children proper guidance. Do not compare them with other children. If the parents compare them with other children publicly its negative impact on them would be very deep. Parents are not often aware of it. Talents of children may differ. Sometimes they may not come to your expectations. However do not hurt their sentiments by unnecessarily comparing them with other children.
