IS IT ENOUGH TO GO ON LIKE THIS?

There is a frequent question that people ask the young people who have graduated:

“Haven’t you got a job?”

The same people will ask those who are doing small jobs: “Aren’t you looking for another good job?”

Now, if the young man has graduated and has a good job with a decent salary, they will ask:

“Is it enough to go on like this? Don’t you need a family?”

What will be your response to such questions? Depending on your response to these questions, your view of your future can be assessed. When the above questions are asked, some people turn away indifferently. Others will give the correct answer.

People who are reluctant and avoid discussing future matters indicate that they are not mentally prepared to build a future. So, when talking about such topics, they quickly change the subject. They will divert the topic to many other things.

If one zestfully talks about his independence and solitude while discussing family life, it can be a sign that he is not interested in having a family life. Personal liberty is not lost by marriage, only some preferences change. But these people don’t understand that.

Others may be financially insecure. So, even if they want to have a family life, they are unable to make a decision. But they avoid talking about it openly.
Concerns about whether they will be able to establish a healthy emotional relationship with their spouse may also deter some individuals from making decisions about family life.

Some people hesitate to enter into marital relationships because of their worry about their incapability to enter into a commitment and the feeling that they will not be able to stay in a stable relationship. Sometimes they express their desire to get married. The next moment they will reverse their decision. These people are struggling inside between ‘to be or not to be.’

If you know someone, who shies away when asked about family life and future life, it would be good to know that they are enduring the pressure of these indecisive thoughts in their minds. Try to see the issue from their point of view and find a solution instead of getting angry or blaming them.