We acquire certain misconceptions either form our beliefs and concepts or from the influence of others. Dropping these notions forever would fill our heart with happiness and peace. Let us get acquainted with such wrong notions.
We must make all others happy and satisfied
If you become the reason for other’s happiness it is good. The happiness derived from sacrificing certain pleasures is definitely valuable. But is it good to sacrifice your own happiness to make others happy? No. Some people take unnecessary burden to get praising words form others. If these burdens are bearable to them then it is ok. But most often some people say yes only from the fear of saying no to make others speak good of them. After some time the ‘Yes’ would take away their own happiness and peace of mind. Suppose you take a responsibility only to make others happy and you suffer a a lot for it you may be subjected to the same exploitation in the future also. Therefore don’t make others happy and contented by compromising your own happiness. Nobody can make all others happy and contented. Self happiness and contentment is what matters.
Everything should be perfect
Everything should be done with utmost perfectness. Some people think so. They are known as the perfectionists. They won’t get happiness in anything. Therefore they would find flaws in everything and become restless. They won’t be ready to appreciate the deeds of others. Remember one thing- perfection is only a concept. There is also beauty in imperfection. Fissure occur in the relationship out of this over perfectionism. Nobody is hundred percent perfect and nothing has acquired hundred percent perfection in this world.
It is wrong to love oneself
Eating the favourite food, wearing the favourite dress and set out a journey alone- At least some of us consider these things as lack of love for spouse or members of the family. Some people say that they won’t drink even a glass of lemon juice from outside or won’t go for a movie alone. For them all these are injustice to the beloved ones. Happiness irrespective of its amount is endear to all especially if this happiness won’t harm anybody or if it won’t lessen the self respect. These times self care is something that must be given its due value. It is not a luxury. Self care is to be considered as only the time spent for nourishing the physical, mental and emotional health of oneself. Studies prove that through self care life becomes more happy and creative.
Failed ? That is the end of everything
It is a wrong notion that once failed you can never succeed in life. Some people live around us with the burden of this notion. People would hesitate to take risk because of this thought. If it fails… this is their worry . Failure is not the end of your life . It is only a step to your growth. These failure in your life would turn into great success one day or other.
