When terrifying, traumatic or deeply painful experiences happen in life, it often takes immense effort for people to move past them, to survive them. For some it may even feel impossible.
If someone has survived sexual abuse, if they have lost a loved one at a very young age, if they have lost a child, if they have waited years longing for a child but never had one or if they have gone through physical and emotional wounds that seem beyond healing- at such moments, it can feel like life, in its best form, is lost forever.
Often we try all sorts of ways to run away from our pain or to hide the true meaning behind our suffering. It is like hearing someone crying outside and silently shutting the door.
The crying still continues. It is real. It needs to be acknowledged and responded to. But when we close the door, we are simply running away from it.
This is what happens when we try to turn away from sorrow in life. We can mask it in different ways but the pain still remains. So, instead of hiding it we must face it, address it, and move through it.
You can take pills to forget or numb the pain. But the pain remains. It is only when we try to face the pain without relying on pills that we become fighters. There are some kinds of pain that can be avoided- those we must learn to avoid. But there are also kinds of pain that cannot be avoided.
These must be slowly accepted and absorbed, however difficult that may be.
Pain is real. Because pain is a sign of life. So instead of running from it, accept the pain and reclaim your life.
