One of the major reasons for our loss of inner peace is the constant worry about what others think of us. It’s not just about them understanding us for who we truly are; rather, we want them to see us the way we wish to be seen. Along with this comes the selfish desire to be in everyone’s good books.
Thoughts like ‘They might not like me,’ or ‘They might criticize me,’ often trouble many. Sometimes, others’ opinions may be completely contrary to our own beliefs. Even when we do and say things that align with our values, we still worry that others might not approve.
Here, we must understand one thing: there is no such thing as a universally accepted person. Even Mahatma Gandhi, who practiced non-violence, and Abraham Lincoln, who abolished slavery, faced criticism in their lifetimes. We know what happened to them. But did they dilute their beliefs out of fear of what others would think? No. Did they abandon their dangerous honesty? No. We are not meant to live according to others’ opinions, to earn their applause, or to constantly please them. We must live our own lives, and our lives have their own limitations and imperfections. If we lack the courage or willingness to accept these flaws, it can lead to inner turmoil.
We cannot control what others think. If we decide to let them think whatever they want, half of our worries will disappear. Our happiness does not lie in their words, nor does our sense of fulfillment.
If we feel disturbed when others say something about us that we dislike or do not wish to hear, it is because we have placed our happiness and satisfaction in their hands. We are not responsible for living according to their preferences or expectations. Instead, we must live according to our conscience and what brings us true joy.
At the same time, we must never forget one crucial thing: we should not set a bad example for society or cause harm to anyone. Trying to win others’ approval at the cost of our individuality is foolishness. It forces us to sacrifice our perspective, our values.
What peace there is in adopting the mindset: No matter what you think about me, I don’t care!
