Even if others give us value, our personality will not become better unless we value ourselves. The truth is that many of us, who run behind the value others give, often fail to realize this. Whether others value us or not, what matters is how much value we ourselves give to ourselves. Instead of becoming people who beg for others’ approval, let us become people who value ourselves.
There are a few simple ways to know how much value a person gives to himself. Those who can disagree without showing disrespect to others and without causing hurt or agitation to them are people who value themselves. Haven’t you heard some people raising their voices while talking to others? Especially superiors… they think that only if they raise their voice will things get done and people will respect them.
They are people who lack self-worth. It is also true that many such people occupy high positions in society and in institutions. Suppose we ask someone for help, and they refuse.
There could be many reasons behind that refusal-perhaps their unwillingness, lack of affection, jealousy, selfishness or anything else. That rejection may sometimes make us uncomfortable. If you are someone who becomes upset in such situations, one thing is clear: you are a person who does not value yourself. On the other hand, if you are able to grow into someone who understands that their refusal is not your limitation but their own limitation, then you are surely a person who values yourself.
There are some people who consider us only when we are present with them. They remember us then-yet in our absence they discard us, without even a thought that such a person existed in their life. People who value themselves stand by others even in their absence. There are those who encourage others. Likewise, there are those who will not acknowledge something good even when they see it. If you belong to the first category, you are a person who values yourself; if you belong to the second, you are someone lacking in self-worth.
Ask yourself-how much value do you give to yourself?
