Many stubborn children gradually break out of their behavior once school life begins. Children are able to come out of their emotional outbursts and cry over trivial things, gradually. But this is not the case with some children; they will still have outbursts and be stubborn. This situation can be very distressing for parents. Their distress comes out through certain expressions. For example expressions like this: “mischievous child, a creature that spoils all the peacefulness of this house, you better don’t be this adamant”. When the children hear this, they will have a negative impact on their minds. They think of themselves as angry, stubborn, and animal-like. But parents should take care not to label their children so. These labels in no way will help children break out of their patterns of behaviour and will be harmful to them.
The second thing to note is to try to love your children unconditionally. It is true that children’s stubbornness is not always easy to tolerate. Children’s stubbornness, outbursts, and disobedience are also opportunities to test parents’ patience. They should be convinced that we are ready to love our children in any condition.
Seeing that they are loved unconditionally can help them break out of bad habits and develop good habits. Often, the reason behind children’s tantrums is taunts, neglect and unbecoming behavior from others. Children should also be taught some easy ways to deal effectively with this situation and control their emotions. This will help the child avoid quick reactions and stay away from explosive situations.
For example, teach them to count from one to ten or more to overcome a potentially explosive situation, or ask them to go to their room and take deep breaths. Otherwise, ask them to repeat the self-calming words several times. Words such as: “I’m not angry, I’m okay, I’m perfectly okay, etc.”
It is the responsibility of parents to help their children recognize their emotions and teach them to control them. Teaching children empathy and essential consideration for others will help them to overcome themselves. Therefore, parents must teach their children virtues like empathy and consideration for others. Similarly, parents should not interfere in their children’s space. Respect their space and be careful not to control or reprimand them at any chance.
