Many parents are loud and angry with their children. Loud reprimands and tantrums are part of teaching children discipline and holding them to their standards. But be clear about one thing. Children cannot be cured by anger.
There is a generally accepted method. Parents who speak loudly to their children become more vocal than ever before at each stage of their child’s development. There are very few parents who have not had to ask their children ‘are you deaf? ‘at least once. If you ask why this happens, children who are used to talking loudly from a young age can only respond to it when they hear it louder as they get older. Now let’s think about what can happen when we get angry and scolded. When speaking out loud and angry, ideas are often not clear. Words will be uncontrollable. Even they may not understand what is being said. The words will be out of order.
Parents who speak angrily to their children such as “don’t be angry” and “speak softly” have no right to expect a calm response from their children. Children tend to imitate their guardians therefore, growing up with angry, yelling parents, how can they speak with gentleness and calmness? Let me repeat what I said at the beginning, don’t think that you can fix your children by getting angry and shouting. Not only this, the mental health of the children will be at risk in the future.
Behavioral disorders, anxiety, stress, emotional problems, withdrawal tendencies, depression, academic laziness etc. may occur in children growing up in such an environment continuously. They lose confidence and are unable to lead a better social life. Studies show that even young children can understand the angry tone of their parents’ speech. Parents transmit their stress to their children when they are angry. Studies have also shown that it has a negative effect on the brains of children. When angry parents talk, the words they use and the angry punishments lead them to think that the home is not a safe place. They assume that they cannot live here peacefully and are not safe.
Many times, in life they have to hear the harsh words and harsh manners that they have to hear for no reason and when the time comes, they respond to their parents in the same way. Children should not be victims of their parents’ anger, unreasonable blame, and punishments. They are our treasures. It is also the greatest wealth that parents have received. It is the duty and responsibility of the parents to keep these treasures and to use the wealth properly. So, control your anger and talk to your children as gently as you can. Well, there is every possibility of being blown away when you see some of the ways kids are doing these days. But trying to spank them or reprimand them to silence them is not a healthy parenting approach. There is another thing that parents who are angry with their children should understand. Not only themselves but also their children are angry. Don’t try to suppress their anger with anger.
