Does your life partner criticize you often? Does he or she find fault with you and make fun of you? Is he or she unable to tell one of your good qualities, at least? Then, it is clear that your marital relationship has problems. Modern psychology calls it emotional abuse. Gradually, it can adversely affect your mental health.
There is hardly any marital relationship on earth in which the spouses enjoy 100% happiness and contentment. Even though one is not able to experience happiness and contentment in its fullness, one should at least be able to experience a certain amount of them in married life. Psychologists opine that when the amount of happiness reduces in married life, it will cause the people involved to end up in mental disorders.
When the disparity between husband and wife becomes frequent, it will give rise to anxiety, sleep disorder, depression, lack of self-confidence etc. Negative thoughts will prevail over and mental health will suffer. Chronic head-ache and body pain are sometimes the result of such negative thoughts. If one of the partners feels that the other partner constantly ignores or discourages him or her, it will make him or her depressed and lonely. If you are a person who finds fault with your spouse very often, you need to understand that there is no one on the earth who is perfect in all aspects. When you point your finger at your spouse, be aware that many fingers are being pointed at you; only that you are ignoring those fingers.
Yes, certain corrections are needed in life; but it should be done without causing wounds to the other. When you correct your spouse, take care that you do not spoil his or her dignity or hurt his or her self-esteem.
Good relationships nurture mental health. Take care that your relationship should help your spouse to grow and not to wither. In marital relationships, the spouses must grow and help each other to grow. No one on earth has become good by reproval and demeaning. You should help and encourage your spouse to grow the innate goodness in him or her. Wreckage of relationships occurs when one of the spouses loses his or her mental health. It will also put your family life in crisis.
Has your spouse’s self-esteem gone up after marriage? Has his or her happiness doubled? Then you can rejoice and be proud about it. On the other hand, has your life partner become melancholic? Has he or she lost her self-esteem? Reflect for a while. Rectify yourself. Do not forget that the mental health and positive thoughts of your life partner are the real assets of your family.
