Mere finding of a suitable life partner does not make a marriage successful; on the other hand, the right approach to marriage is what makes it successful. No marriage has become a success on a single day or by the conscious effort of one partner.
Some people may be able to reap great success in their business ventures; but the same persons may fail in making their marriages a success. A person, who controls hundreds of subordinates, may not be able to manage his/her spouse. Marriage is a decision. Naturally, there will be ups and downs in a marital relationship. There will be good and bad marital relationships. Nonetheless, marriage lasts forever. Hence, marriage can be viewed only as an extension of many other factors. Let us have a look into the foundational factors of marriage.
Love and commitment
The most basic factor of a marriage is a decision to love one’s partner. It is not melodramatic as we see in the movies and fictions. Neither is it a display of flamboyance. A strong decision to love is the deciding factor of the steadfastness of every marriage. True love will stay steadfast through the adversities and challenges of life.
Sexual fidelity
Sexual fidelity is not limited to the body alone. It encompasses eyes, mind, heart and soul. Entertaining a sexual desire for another person in one’s heart is also an act of sexual infidelity. Today, most people go astray in this regard through the deviation of mind. In this context, how many people will be there who keep sexual fidelity, in this world?
Humility
In a healthy marital relationship, both the partners will be well aware of their own faults. No one is perfect. We should realize and admit that we have limitations just as our life partners have. Only then we will be able to apologize and forgive. In a marital life, tolerance and forgiveness have a very important role to play.
Time
Time is a major investment in married life. The time spent between the couples will make the married life beautiful. It is not about spending too much time, but it is about how warmly and fruitfully you spend time together.
Communication
Proper communication between couples occurs in healthy marital relationships. The partners should share with each other the future plans about their children, dreams for future, hope and worries.
Unselfishness
Some studies, which researched the reasons for divorces, found out that the villain is selfishness. A selfish person will be preoccupied with himself/herself. My pleasure, my illness, my future, my dreams… They never think about a life together. Get out of the confines of selfishness. Only then you will have a solid and lasting marital relationship.
