Divorce cases are phenomenally on the rise nowadays. There are many marital relationships that break down even before completing a year. In the backdrop of these short-lived marriages, 25 year old marriages stand as a luminous witness. By the fact that they have lived together so long, we cannot give assurance that they will live together for much longer. So, those who are past their silver jubilee year of marriage should understand certain things to approach their future.
Imagine a life without life partner
You have lived so long depending on each other. But, you do not know how long your wife/husband will be with you. Nonetheless, a person must live on whether his wife/husband is with him/her or not. So, live in anticipation of a time when you are deprived of your spouse. Mentally prepare to face such a situation. Do not depend too much on your spouse; instead try to do things on your own. Although your personal relationships and love relationships are important in this life, your life should not be solely dependent on them. Realize that your life is meaningful in itself; and prepare yourself to go on without faltering in exigencies.
Be ready to be alone.
Find a space for yourself.
Many people are afraid to say to their partner: I want to sit alone for some time. Do not trespass into my privacy. Many people do not dare to say so because they fear that it will give rise to misunderstanding and create rift in their relationship. But, couples should learn to sit alone. Each one should respect the other’s privacy as well.
Understand the language of mutual love
Couples will understand the language of mutual love only when they have lived together for a long time. When you realize that some acts of indignation, complaints, silence and sorrows from the side of your spouse were signs of love, you will be moved to self-contempt for getting angry with your spouse. When you realize the love behind each of your spouse’s acts, you will get deeper in love with him/her.
Say ‘Good Night’ with a kiss
Before you go to sleep, kiss on your spouse’s forehead or cheek. Who knows if both of you are going to wake up in the morning or not.
Be more patient with yourself and your life partner
Explosive behaviours and short temper during younger age often make marital relationships toxic. It takes many years for the couples to enter into a mature relationship. This change and transformation will be beneficial for their relationship. Forgive yourself and forgive your spouse and make your life happier.
Do not dwell in illusions
When your life partner behaves in a way you do not expect him to be, do not guess the reason. Many people make guess works that will be far removed from reality. If you find anything unusual in her/his behaviour, ask her/him about the reason for that behaviour and dispel your doubts. Thus you will be able to sustain the beauty of your marital relationship.
Be in mutual friendship
A married person can have other friendships apart from their marital life. Even while such friendships are good, it is important to maintain a good friendship between spouses. Good friendships are born when the parties involved understand each other and love each other deeply. It is essential to grow deeper in marital friendship at least when you have completed 25 years of marriage.
Converse with each other every day
In some cases, married people may find a shortage of subjects to talk about as they have lived so long. We have talked so much. What else is left? Some may ask. But, that should not be. Married couples must talk to each other every day. Relationships will get deeper as you talk even your little things. Many people feel the voice of their partner encouraging.
Find out your hobby
There are quite some good hobbies like painting, gardening, reading and so on that will help you to overcome the loneliness arising from the absence of your partner.
Dine together
Dining table is the table of love. When you serve food together, eat together and share together, you are actually climbing the mountain of love. Maybe in the past, the husband has eaten alone or later both the spouses have eaten at separate timings. But, now on let us eat together. Find time to dine together.
Say thanks
If you sit and reflect, you will find a zillion reasons to thank your life partner. Thank him/her for all the gifts you have received through him/her.
Learn to ask forgiveness
Just think how many times you have hurt your partner through your words and deeds. Beg his/her forgiveness for all your misdeeds. When you beg forgiveness, your hearts will get closer and love will be redoubled.
