A marital relationship is one of the most beautiful and wonderful relationships in the world. At the same time, it is not an easy journey as well. Each marital relationship has its own challenges and complexities. The success of marital life depends upon how we solve these hurdles and march ahead.
Nevertheless, this is not always so easy. Then, the red signal of marriage flashes. We know what a red signal signifies. It means that vehicles have to stop moving.
But, many couples do not understand the colour changes in their relationships. Let us see the times when the red light flashes.
When the couple stops mutual conversation
They may be living under the same roof. They may be meeting every day. But, there is no talking, no mutual communication. When one of them asks: “Why don’t you speak?” the other will retort: “What to speak? “It means that the couple has no topics to share between. They have become strangers living under the same roof. They lose interest to share mutually involving subjects like the future of the children, their education, debt, neighbours, relatives, etc. There are couples who do not talk for several days. But, when this cold war of silence extends to weeks and months, the red signal burns bright.
When the couple stops sharing what is in their hearts
When the conversation stops, the opening of hearts also stops. They do not make a conscious effort to explain why they are not talking, which act or word of the partner has hurt him or her, what is vexing him or her etc. Such a situation when neither of the couple is able to understand each other or console each other is a really pathetic and poignant situation.
Finding goals outside the marital bond:
If you are having recourse to extramarital relationships, alcohol, drugs, or pornography, it means that your marital life is in danger. Leaving home very early, returning home very late, lack of interest to be at home, etc. are signs of a broken marital relationship.
When all the hope for married life is lost
If you begin to feel that your marriage was a foolish decision and act, if you feel that it is impossible to go ahead, if you are unable to see dreams about the future, then you need to understand that red light is flashing in your married life!
