Not all of us are familiar with the term ‘technoference.’ What does it mean? It actually means interruptions in interpersonal communication caused by attention paid to personal technological devices. It happens when someone invests all his time in browsing smartphones or gadgets. As a result, when his spouse/friend/children/parents speaks to him or asks questions, he will not hear or ignore them unintentionally.
For example, you are participating in a party along with your friends or going for a trip or you are dining with them. All these time, you are supposed to speak to your friends and enjoy with them; instead, you are browsing your smartphone all the while. When this becomes a habit, you will lose relationships. People will find it impossible to maintain relationships with such people.
This phenomenon is commonly seen in families. Your wife may be waiting for you to come home from your office so that she may share her heart with you or spend some time with you. Your children are waiting for you to share their experiences in the school. Your parents are waiting as well to talk to you about their ailments. But, you are not able to give ear to them since you are engrossed in your smartphone. When you carry this habit into your dining room and bedroom, your relationships will be ruined. This can even lead to divorce.
We can hear so many complaints in the society: “He/she is always on the smartphone! He/she has no time to look after the needs of the family!” You can avoid such a plight if only you give a conscious attempt. Let us check some tips to tackle this issue:
Never use the smartphone when your spouse is saying something seriously to you. This is like insulting and ignoring the person who speaks. Your spouse may be coming to speak to you about something serious or to relieve herself from some stress. Consider her with due respect and attention. Do not browse your smartphone while she is speaking.
Do not allow technology to ruin relationships. It should be used to build relationships. Technology is good; but it depends on how we use it. But, what we often find is that we use technology to connect with those who are far away at the expense of those who are near. This is not right. So, do not use smartphones while you are sitting with your family members. Do not allow it to be a nuisance during your happy hours. Keep aside your mobile phone while you are at the dining table.
Reduce screen time
Some people may have to use their smartphones as part of their job. Yet, reduce the use of smartphones after 8 pm. Instead of speaking to others over the phone, talk to your spouse and children who are with you.
Give time to other things as well
Understand that you get more happiness while doing exercise, prayer, reading and personal relations than while using a smartphone. Reduce the time of smartphone use and spend more time to build relationships.
